二十九

问答:在丈夫身上寻找什么

2014年8:45下午8:45,Nicole Whitacre 归档下Biblical Womanhood|Marriage|Q&A

问:我很想听听你父母是如何向你建议订婚和结婚的。兴发xf881手机版他们告诉你找个丈夫干什么??

A: There is so much to say on this topic,but here are a few"starter"当我们考虑结婚时爸爸妈妈给我们的问题,这些是从我们的书上取的,,女孩说话,在妈妈写的一章里:

C.J.我试图为我们的女儿提供列表from Scripture of essential qualities that should characterize any man desirous of pursuing them.These qualities included: 1.对上帝真正的热情。最大的命令就是“全心全意、全心全意、全心全意地爱耶和华你的上帝”(马特)。22:37)单纯的信仰职业是不够的。一个虔诚的人会一直表现出爱,服从,对救世主的热情不断高涨。2。谦卑。’这就是我要找的人,' says the Lord,“一个谦虚,在精神上忏悔,为我的话而颤抖的人”(伊萨。66:2).你女儿肯定会嫁给一个罪人。如果他是一个谦卑的、可教训的罪人,并且容易悔改,then he will be sure to grow in godliness.This humility will also be evident in his love for and submission to God's Word.3.Love for the local church.上帝在地球上计划的中心是他的教堂。A young man must be pursuing fellowship and serving faithfully in a local church if he is to make a good candidate for a husband.4。圣经对男人和女人的信仰。兴发xf881手机版A successful marriage is due in large part to a couple's grasp of their respective roles and responsibilities.一个潜在的丈夫必须致力于圣经中的互补作用。他必须准备好承担起爱和领导妻子的责任。(Eph.5:22-25)。除了把这个年轻人和这张必需品清单作比较外,we also helped our daughters evaluate God's commands to wives.从《圣经》中我们问女儿们每个人都在考虑的关于这个年轻人的问题如下:你是否完全尊重这个男人,就像妻子被召唤来尊重她的丈夫一样?-Can you eagerly submit to him as the church submits to Christ?-Do you have faith to follow this man no matter where he may lead?-Can you love this man with a tender,深情的爱?(1 Cor.11:3;Eph。5:22,33;Col.3:8;Titus 2:4-5) Again,this list of qualities and questions is hardly exhaustive.However,it provided clear,objective,以及圣经的标准来帮助我们的女儿辨别上帝的意愿。

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How Will I Compare??

2014 at 9:23 pm   |   by Nicole Whitacre 归档下Biblical Womanhood

最近我和另一个妈妈在一起。下载兴发pt首页登录你知道吗?惊奇,惊奇,,she's another Margie.This woman is a better mom than me,在很多方面。你可以看到她坚持不懈的成果,她的耐心,以及她对孩子生活的热爱。

现在,I had to choose how I was going to respond to this mother's maturity.有一些罪过,and sadly well-worn options:

选项1:为自己感到抱歉。 我是个糟糕的妈妈。I'm a complete failure.对我的孩子们有什么希望?I try so hard but I always seem to fall short.I'll never be as good a mom as she is.(一切都被溅射了,在抽泣之间,致我长期受苦的丈夫。)

Option #2: Make excuses. 好,她当然是个好妈妈。她比我有很多优势,而且她没有独特的挑战要应对。如果我的处境更像她的话,那我可能会比她做得更好。

Option #3: Judge and Resent. She probably thinks she is better than me.我只是不认为我能和一个让我觉得很低人一等的人在一起。I need to be with people who are real 兴发xf881手机版about their weaknesses and failures,just like me.

或者,there is a better,圣经的方式……

选项4:表示感谢并学习。 感谢上帝把这个女人带到我的生活中。感谢你的方式,她给你的荣耀。Thank you for the way that her children are bringing glory to your name.我祈祷你能保佑她。And I pray that you would help me to learn from her.Please help me to be more consistent,更多病人,more loving toward my children,for their good and your glory.Thank you for this woman who provokes and stirs me up"去爱和好的作品”(希伯书10:24) 帮助我成长,by your grace.以耶稣的大名,Amen.

然后给她打个电话,ask her out for coffee,做好笔记。

Now that's a better option.

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The Opportunities of Housekeeping

2014年8:49,Carolyn Mahaney撰文 归档下家政

“从外面看,housework can look like a Sisyphean task that gives you no sense of reward or completion.Yet housekeeping actually offers more opportunities for savoring achievement than almost any other work I can think of.它的每一个常规程序在完成时都会带来满足感。这些规律与生活节奏相呼应,and the housekeeping rhythm is the rhythm of the body.你不仅从秩序感中得到满足,清洁,freshness,peace and plenty restored,but from the knowledge that you yourself and those you care 兴发xf881手机版about are going to enjoy these benefits."~Cheryl Mendelson,,居家舒适:居家的艺术与科学

二十二

Coming Soon: True Beauty

2014 at 8:26 pm   |   by Janelle Bradshaw

已经很久了,下载兴发pt首页登录但是,我们的长期读者是否记得四年前我们让你寄一下载兴发pt首页登录本新书的时候,妈妈和妮可正在写一本关于美的书?兴发xf881手机版我想我看到外面有几只手。好,今天我很高兴地宣布真美终于完成了,并计划于十字路出版社3月31日,2014。

我们很高兴能与您分享这个消息,因为真美已经出现,部分地,从我们和大家的谈话中我们感到非常幸运吉尔塔克The book is full of the stories,问题,struggles,and comments that so many of you shared with us.

真美也是你在2010年写作过程开始时祈祷的结果,and again last spring when we asked for your prayers for a"project"we were completing.(Mom and Nicole wanted to wait until they were sure they could finish the book before announcing its publication!)

This book is the culmination of many years of study and hard work by Mom and Nicole.Their desire and prayer has been to bring God's Word to bear in a personal and practical way to this consuming and complicated area of physical beauty.这是出版商对他们书的描述:

什么是真正的美呢??

不管是不适合年龄的化妆品还是最新的饮食时尚,我们的文化不断地告诉女性,美是由完美的皮肤和超模的身材组成的。真正的美,Carolyn Mahaney and her daughter Nicole Whitacre direct us to the truth of God's Word,where we encounter an entirely different—and refreshingly liberating—standard of beauty.

Offering a path to freedom from the false idols that society,the Devil,我们罪恶的心经常创造,这本鼓舞人心的书将帮助你将流行文化的暂时魅力与永恒的敬虔之美交换。

And to whet your appetites even more,以下是其他人所说的兴发xf881手机版真美:

“卡罗琳和妮可对我们的消费欲望和残废欲望提出的答案,从世界的角度来看,是既不方正也不简单的,而是完全符合圣经的要求,令人深感满足。”“

—Nancy Guthrie,,Bible Teacher;作者,《旧约圣经》系列丛书中的耶稣

“卡罗琳和妮可是我们的研究助理,他们让我们看到了身体美的虚荣,让我们的心看到了真正美的力量。”“

-丹娜·格雷什,,畅销书《守望者女孩》的作者和创作者

“Combining the eminently practical with the deeply theological,卡罗琳和妮可给了我们一个既非常新颖又植根于上帝不变的话语的作品。

—Kevin and Trisha DeYoung,,Senior Pastor,大学改革教会,东兰辛密歇根。Kevin and Trisha have been married for 12 years and have six children.

“Whether single,married,wife,mom,husband,父亲,brother,or boyfriend,真正的美是必须读的。

-韦伯和道德·基思·辛普森,,Professional golfer,PGA巡回赛,和他的妻子,mother of three

“每一个基督徒妇女都应该读这本书,一旦她能理解,就应该把它交给每一个年轻女孩。These gifted authors have not only written a book;他们发起了一场革命。”“

-艾尔和玛丽·莫勒,,主席:南方浸信会神学院;和他的妻子,玛丽,Director of the Seminary Wives Institute at The Southern Baptist Theological Seminary

你可以阅读更多关于人们所说的内容兴发xf881手机版真美pre-order your copy today.

妈妈和妮可非常感谢你们的参与和祈祷,并希望这本书能激励你们每一个人。Having read it myself,I can assure you that it will.

二十

A Tale of Two Comparisons

2014年10:15,Carolyn Mahaney 归档下Biblical Womanhood|精神成长

Recently,一个年轻的女人问我们:“为什么你认为现在这么多年轻的基督教妇女抵制来自其他基督教妇女的虔诚建议?““

现在我知道很多年轻女性都渴望,desperate even,为上帝的建议。但特别是在互联网上,there seems to be a trend of some下载兴发pt首页登录times labeling godly counsel as legalistic or condemning.

Granted,如果你有过一种不愉快的烹饪经历,那就是一种额外的圣经观点压在你的喉咙里,you may not be asking for another.但通常情况下,我想知道这种反应是否来自罪恶的比较,害怕兴发xf881手机版自卑,对圣经如何处理嫉妒和嫉妒带来的负面情绪感到困惑。

耶稣在约翰福音21章的劝勉:“那对你来说是什么?You follow me?““不是对孤立主义基督教的鼓励。它不鼓励个人主义和骄傲。更确切地说,following Christ leads us into greater humility,这使我们更深入地与其他信徒的社区,无论他们的背景和环境不同,也试图跟随上帝。

事实上,Jesus doesn't say,“Don't ever look at others.戴上你的眼罩,只看着我。”不,他说,“Don't look to others在嫉妒和罪恶的比较中.But向别人看,godly,基督徒要模仿和效仿他们的榜样。”“

彼得前书三章,我们被告知要仰望过去的圣女,考虑她们的生活方式。在提图斯2中,年轻的女人要向年长的女人学习。Paul says it plainly in 1 Corinthians 11:1:“做我的模仿者,as I am of Christ."“

这些诗句并不意味着我们必须接受我们收到的每一个建议,or that well-intended advice is infallible advice.但谦卑的心要留心,寻求智慧的所在。谦虚的心不难承认有人比我们走得更远;它跑去追赶。

So let's not attempt to cure the pride of sinful comparison with the pride of prickly individualism.让我们靠进去学习吧。让我们继续深入了解基督,让我们四处看看上帝在我们生命中所安排的那些教导我们如何听从他的命令。you follow me."“